LGBT Must Read Books

Queer Blues: The Lesbian and Gay Guide to Overcoming Depression
by Kimeron N. Hardin, Marny Hall

Let's Talk About It:

IF YOU ARE IN CRISIS AND NEED IMMEDIATE HELP, PLEASE CALL ANY OF THESE NUMBERS:

1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK)

1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE)

1-866-488-7386 (1-866-4.U.TREVOR aimed at gay and questioning youth)

Be Aware of the Warning Signs of Suicide
There is no typical suicide victim. It happens to young and old, rich and poor. Fortunately there are some common warning signs of suicide which, when acted upon, can save lives. Here are some signs to look for:

A suicidal person might be suicidal if he or she:

Talks about committing suicide
Has trouble eating or sleeping
Experiences drastic changes in behavior
Withdraws from friends and/or social activities
Loses interest in hobbies, work, school, etc.
Prepares for death by making out a will and final arrangements
Gives away prized possessions
Has attempted suicide before
Takes unnecessary risks
Has had recent severe losses
Is preoccupied with death and dying
Loses interest in their personal appearance
Increases their use of alcohol or drugs

What To Do

Here are some ways to be helpful to someone who is threatening suicide:

Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
Be non-judgmental. Don't debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or feelings are good or bad. Don't lecture on the value of life.
Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
Don't dare him or her to do it.
Don't act shocked. This will put distance between you.
Don't be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.
Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.
Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention and suicide prevention.
Be Aware of Feelings
Many people at some time in their lives think about committing suicide. Most decide to live, because they eventually come to realize that the crisis is temporary and death is permanent. On other hand, people having a crisis sometimes perceive their dilemma as inescapable and feel an utter loss of control. These are some of the

feelings and things they experience:

Can't stop the pain
Can't think clearly
Can't make decisions
Can't see any way out
Can't sleep, eat or work
Can't get out of depression
Can't make the sadness go away
Can't see a future without pain
Can't see themselves as worthwhile
Can't get someone's attention
Can't seem to get control

If you experience these suicidal thoughts and feelings, get help! If someone you know exhibits these symptoms of suicide, offer help!

Contact:

A community mental health agency
A private therapist or counselor
A school counselor or psychologist
A family physician
A suicide prevention or crisis center
The National Hopeline Network 1-800-SUICIDE provides access to trained telephone counselors, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Help someone you feel is going through a depressive stage in their life. I know a lot of times it's more than likely that any form of help will be able to do but so much, but please I ask, no scratch that I beg everyone to help our fellow LGBTQ. It starts with us. thank you.

Trey Songz’s Album Cover & Tracklists To ‘Passion, Pain & Pleasure’

The anticipated the September 14th release of TREY SONGZ’ new studio LP, Passion, Pain & Pleasure.



Passion, Pain & Pleasure

1.Here We Go Again (Interlude)
2.Love Faces
3.Massage
4.Alone
5.Bottoms Up (feat. Nicki Minaj)
6.Pain (Interlude)
7.Can’t Be Friends
8.Please Return My Call
9.Made To Be Together
10.Pleasure (Interlude)
11.Red Lipstick
12.Doorbell
13.Passion (Interlude)
14.Unfortunate
15.I Like Dat (Freak Freaky Dance)
16.Blind
17.You Just Need Me

With both Brown and Usher currently doing their thing, it’ll be interesting to see how this impacts Mr. Cocky's project. I'm just hoping it's going to be better than the last album "Ready", which really didn't do much for me, with the exceptions of a few tracks...Everyone should support good music. If this album turns out to be good music I will definitely support the young man.

Real talk, I'm wondering why he's coming out with another album so soon? Is it due to Usher and Chris Brown's comeback? Or is it that he has a lot of material that he just wants to release? I'm a fan of GREAT music and so far I'm not hearing GREAT music from Mr Cocky.

Please world speak.....what you think???

International LGBT News: Jerusalem gay pride

A gay pride flag emblazoned with the Star of David, at the Pride Parade in Jerusalem in June 2009.

The holiest city has traditionally seen widespread resistance to the annual parade, but are attitudes changing? The annual gay pride parade in Jerusalem is once again hitting the headlines, with Thursday's event reigniting the fierce debate over whether the LGBT community should be allowed to hold such an event in such a city. The violence that plagued the parade in the capital five years ago, when an Orthodox Jew stabbed three people, still resonates, but have attitudes evolved in the past half-decade?

what do the locals think?

Jacob, a 22-year-old from Chicago who defines himself as "fairly religious," has lived in Jerusalem for three years, and says his American upbringing has given him a more open-minded approach to homosexuality.

Avi and Binyamin have first hand experience with all of this. They were the first gay couple to be registered as married in Jerusalem, following an order from the Supreme Court in January 2007. This came in the wake of the case of five other gay couples, all of whom had married abroad, being recognized as married in Israel by the Supreme Court in November 2006.

“I was in the middle of completing Ulpan [Hebrew classes] in Jerusalem at the time,” laughs Binyamin, “so it was like, well, now I’m truly out. I didn’t quite bargain for that. People stopped talking to me; it was like being a school kid all over again - except less accepting.”

“Should we parade our adulteries?” Aaron asks before shrugging and looking away. “From a religious stand point it's the same thing as homosexuality, so to parade it is kind of like spitting in our face. What are they trying to prove?”

Now, you have some that agrees. SMH...

Isaac agrees: “I think they are trying to cause trouble and draw attention to themselves, that's my problem with the gay community in Israel. They have the right, but why would they want to do it in such a religious city?”

What do you think?

Let's Talk About It:

Looking for a little spark in your relationship, but you just can’t seem to place your fingers on what’s missing? You may need to venture from the confinement of those same drab bedroom walls and try diving head first into a brand new location. The thrill of reaching your height in a new spot may inspire you to become more aggressive or passive or even inspire you to try a new position or just give you that kick start that you’ve been in need of. Get out your paper and pen and take notes because the next step is trying them out for your self.

Parking Garage – The new “it” spot to have lunch. Find a spot that’s empty, make “lunchtime” the must have time of your day.

1. 2. Taxi- Nothing like driving your girl/man crazy or her/him driving you insane while the cabbie is watching in the mirror. You can even pretend to be passed out on the other’s lap and the cabbie will never now the difference...it works!

3. Entrance to your Home- Nothing like christening the new place in a whole new way. Greet your love the best way you can with a little foreplay in the entryway!

4. Rooftop- This is especially romantic at night! A lot of buildings have the doors leading to the rooftop open which means all you need to bring is a blanket and your libido. Besides, there’s nothing like making love underneath the stars.

5. Truck Bed- So, I know you’re probably laughing but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. You get really good coverage and a lot of space to move around. Just don’t rock too hard or it’ll be obvious that someone is knee deep.

6. Kitchen Counter- And I mean both of you up there! If you’re afraid of heights this spot gives you even more of a reason to grip your partner even tighter. And you’ll love having little flashbacks of how great it was every time you go to the fridge.

7. Stairwell- If your job or home is like mine then you know that everyone and I mean EVERONE takes the elevator so the stairwell is completely empty and available for action. Sneak a few touches, some kisses and if you’re completely driven by the moment see just how far you’re willing to go out in the open; gives a whole new meaning to the phrase “stairway to heaven”.

8. Bathroom- Sounds cliché but its all about the where you are! Whether it be at a restaurant, or at your mom’s house or even your boy’s place; pull into a random fast food spot or retail store and make full use of their stalls. The rush will drive you insane.

9.Elevator- The rush of an elevator going up and down is enough to throw you off balance or give you head rush. So… what would happen if you were getting a little oral or even going all the way??? The floating sensation is enough to make you dizzy, but that big “O” won’t help you keep your balance either.

10. A Friend’s car- whether you’re in the back seat being chauffeured, or you borrow it for a quick ride up the street; the thrill is that they never have to know. You can get as kinky or as tame as you’d like to be, just making sure you leave no traces. I mean, who wants friends that funk up or trash people’s cars, lol.

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Let's Talk About It:

So many homeless gay youth in New York City, has resorted to prostitution in order to survive. Gay youth take to the streets for a variety of reasons, some resorting to hustling to survive. Whether they are kicked out by their families for being gay or are forced to leave to escape abuse, staying at home may not be an option for many gay youth.

According to a 2007 study done by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, 20 to 40 percent of homeless youth in the United States identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual. The same study also found that there are between 15,000 and 20,000 homeless youth in New York City, of whom 3,000 to 8,000 are LGBT.

Even when they are able to live at home, a gay kid’s life may not be easy. Bullying and a lack of support are pervasive problems in schools. A 1997 Massachusetts Department of Education Survey found that gay students hear anti-gay slurs as often as 26 times each day. Faculty intervention occurs in only about 3 percent of those cases.

Kids are coming out earlier than in previous generations, and gay organizations are only now paying attention.

Older generations were accustomed to coming out later in life when they were out of their parent’s homes and able to support themselves. Today, kids who come out as young as 12 and are kicked out of their homes need the help of these gay organizations to survive.

New York City is a very tough city. The reality is that there are a large number of gay and lesbian youth of color who are discriminated against.

Angela’s Story: Please Read...

Several organizations within New York City, like the Ali Forney Center and the Hetrick Martin Institute, work to help the gay youth who have turned to crime or are living on the streets. Angela Louis, 21, a former homeless teenager, has been able to find a job and get off of the streets with the help of the Ali Forney Center.

Thanks to Ali Forney, Louis has worked at Sephora and Blockbuster, and is currently working at a Starbucks inside the Trump Tower. Louis, who is transgender, came out in May 2006 after her mother discovered she had stayed over at a sick boyfriend’s house one night.

“She said she couldn’t live with a gay child,” said Louis. “She said, ‘you have to move because I can’t allow this in my house.’”

After living with a friend for a while in Crown Heights, Louis moved between several homeless shelters, including a male-only house.

“I couldn’t be who I wanted to be there,” said Louis. “It was all straight males.”

After moving between several other homeless shelters, Louis moved to Atlanta with her then-boyfriend where she eventually ended up on the streets after they broke up. She soon turned to “crafting,” or shoplifting, and sex work to get by. She was able to get back to New York through Travelers Aid International.

“The morning I came back [to New York] my friend [in Atlanta] gave me $10 and a pack of cigarettes. He told me to model and to come back and visit him,” she said.

Louis now participates in Ali Forney Center programs and is currently living in one of their apartments in Brooklyn. Though she is comfortable with who she is, it has not always been easy for her.

“I’ve come a long ways. I used to be scared to walk around outside because I would wonder what people were going to say on the bus or the subway when they saw me,” she said. “But this is who I am. At the end of the day I’m still me and I have to live my life. If I’m going to wear stilettos, I’m going to wear four- or five-inch stilettos and storm.”

“Being out in New York is the worst. This is New York, this is not the South. It’s not as isolated here,” she said. “If you’re trans, you must be this person 24/7."

Entertainment News: Keyshia Coles Album Title Revealed

Cole confirms that the album is tentatively titled ‘Keyshia’ saying “this is the real me and the most personal album I’ve recorded to date”.

Her last album was not appalling at all. I thought it was great. Her vocals improved and she is always on point with the passion and lyrics. I love Keyshia Cole. However, I think the title could be a little more creative. I can understand debut albums being self-titled. But not the 3rd time around. Especially since the last one was titled ‘A Different Me.’ I just think that’s kinda back-pedaling. Artists need to embrace creativity. However, I support her regardless of the title. Maybe it will change between now and the release.

Haters are always going to say that they like the old depressed heartbroken Keyshia, but honestly I love her no matter what kind of state of emotion she's in. I love Keyshia Cole and her rough around the edges style. Reminds me of a young Mary J. Blige. I just don't know about this album title, I can't even front. It shouldn't be a self-titled album especially when she's had more than one out.

Tell me what you think....

Entertainment News: JD going through it

"Good thing gones all the way wrong"

In a recent interview with Atlanta tabloid the Creative Loafing. JD told a writer that rumors of his separation from Janet are mere “assumptions” — despite the fact that Janet has apparently moved on with her life. A friend tried to explain why Dupri seems to be in denial. “He can’t let go of her. He was really in love and love makes you do crazy, crazy things!,” he said. “People in the industry have been saying that he single handily messed her [career] up completely. That has been said by everybody,”

Here's what JD said: “How would you feel if the woman you loved blamed you for ruining her career and now she’s dating a billionaire?“

It's a shame that someone can kick a man when he's already down. He's going through a lot right now, his relationship went south and his money is following. I feel he messed up on one album, and Janet should of just went else where with the management and production instead of leaving him the way she did. Than flaunts her billionaire boy toy in his face. Bloggers feed and bust nuts over stuff like this, I know I am. hahaha... my thing is if she really loved him, all of that wouldn’t have mattered. So what — he messed up on ONE cd. Love is supposed to be stronger than that.

Granted she wasn't going to sell big anyway. Unless she reaches out to her white audience she's pretty washed up. And that's my opinion....

What Does Transgender Day of Remembrance Mean To You? – Sassafras Lowrey

I’ve struggled to find the words to describe what the Transgender Day Of Remembrance means to me. Each year on November 20th I pause to mourn the loss of so many whose lives have been cut short because of senseless violence fueled by prejudice. This year, like every year, as I read through the names of community members who have died, I find myself thinking about the names that are not on this list – of the dozens if not hundreds of transgender and gender nonconforming homeless teenagers whose names will never be included, because our community has forgotten them before they are even gone.

It is estimated that 40% of homeless youth in the United States identify as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender (LGBT), and we know that transgender youth, are overrepresented within that percentage. 26% of LGBT youth are kicked out of their homes when they come out; 78% of LGBT youth were removed from or ran way from foster care placements because they were un-welcoming or hostile toward the youth’s sexual orientation and/or gender identity. This is an epidemic that is impacting transgender teenagers in every community across the country regardless of socio-economic class, race, religion, or geographic region.

In every major city across the country there are hundreds of homeless transgender youth sleeping on the streets because they fear bullying and harassment in shelters, or because they have been assaulted and threatened in foster homes. In every suburban and rural area in this country there are transgender youth who are sleeping on friends couches, or living in their cars because they don’t have a home to return to. According to the National Runaway Switchboard, every year 5,000 homeless and runaway youth die from assault, illness, and suicide, and LGBT youth are 7 times more likely to be victims of violent crime than their heterosexual peers. How many of these youth’s names never make it into the names read at candlelit vigils?

If our goal is to ultimately stop violence against transgender people, it is not enough to mourn those whose deaths receive widespread media and community attention. We must also break the cycle of homelessness amongst transgender youth. We must lobby for culturally competent shelters that do not segregate youth based on sex assigned at birth. We must fight for the creation of more LGBT-specific shelters and work to increase and stabilize their funding. Today as we mourn the loss of so many, we must also work to prevent future violence against some of our community’s youngest and most vulnerable members.

Sassafras Lowrey is an internationally award-winning storyteller, author, artist, and educator. She believes that everyone has a story to tell and that the telling of stories is essential in the creation of social change. Sassafras is the editor of the Kicked Out anthology (coming soon from Homofactus Press), which is bringing together the voices of current and former homeless LGBT youth. She is a monthly columnist for Curve magazine, and her prose has been included in numerous anthologies. Sassafras regularly teaches LGBT storytelling workshops at colleges and conferences across the country and lives in NYC with her partner, two cats, and a princess dog. To learn more about Sassafras and her work, visit www.PoMoFreakshow.com

APPRECIATE YOUR EX'S SIDE OF THE BREAKUP

Make the effort to comprehend your ex's perspective.

Take a good, long look at all the things that are happening in his or her life and try to recognize how the relationship may have not been fulfilling or advantageous for them.

By truly understanding that your ex is not out to hurt you, but rather to find their own personal peace and happiness, may help you get through this painful event. Too many people think that the cure to the pain caused by their breakup is to 'get back together and win ex back'. In actuality, the cure to their grief and their hurt is to understand and accept their ex's choices to dissolve the relationship and to find forgiveness for their ex for hurting them, and by learning to recognize their own grief triggers and working through them on their own. Truly win ex back by seeing their side to the breakup!

Foxy Brown Pleads Not Guilty, Faces 7 Years in Jail

Foxy Brown may be heading back to jail for violating an order of protection placed against her by her neighbor.

Foxy "Boogie" Brown was arrested on Wednesday July 21st after an altercation with Arlene Raymond—who has a restraining order against Fox for a 2007 assault, that the rapper spent time behind bars for.

In the criminal complaint, obtained by New York’s Daily News, Raymond accuses Brown of yelling at her and then exposing her backside. “Bitch, what are you looking at,” she allegedly screamed. “What the fuck you looking at, bitch?”

Then she picked up her dress and stuck out her buttocks, yelling, “Kiss my ass,” reads the complaint.

Boogie Brown pleaded not guilty. If convicted the femcee faces up to seven years behind bars. For all that I would of just beat that bitch with a bat. (Just Joking)...

I personally think this is a justified bid she needs to do. She’s been wild for a minute and anyone that will say “Fuck A Court Order” and continue to ignore repeated warnings, needs to get locked up.

“Throwing your life away” is not new to these rappers. Maybe that forgot about the lives they could have lived if they never got the fame. Poverty…. Living paycheck to paycheck…. Doing shiesty shit just to keep the lights on….

Foxy forgot that she’s in a blessed position. And now…. Once again…. “THE MAN” is in a position to let another dumb-assed rapper know just how quickly it can be lost.

Let's Talk About It:

Knowing the difference between judging and opinion: Honestly, a lot of people misconstrue both. It bothers me deeply when someone mistakes me giving an honest OPINION for JUDGING them, when that's simply not the case. Some people need to understand and know that there's a difference. Plus, who the hell am I to be judging someone? I feel that's the ultimate sin, if there's a such thing as ultimate sin.

Let me break it down to why I wanna talk about it: I was having a conversation with my ex, who seems to annoy me with some of her ways. Yes, I'm aware that people have flaws and I should accept them for who they are. But, somethings I choose not to deal with or accept, and every time I express my feelings and opinion she takes it the wrong way and say I'm always judging her and she hates it. That's her biggest problem with me. I just don't get it, because I'm not judging her unless I am and not know that I'm am. Granted, if more that One person is telling her the same thing, how she going to fix her lips and say I'm always judging her?

The best known scripture concerning not judging others is Matthew 7:1-5, in which Jesus tells us, “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged; etc...

With that said, know that I'm not judging but giving my opinion.

Someone please help me and let me know what you think. What's your take on knowing the difference between judging and opinion.

Now for some entertainment........

LGBT Must Read Books

Black Like Us: A Century of Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual African American Fiction
From Cleis Press

The definitive and most comprehensive book of 20th century African American lesbian, gay, and bisexual writing ever published.Chronicling one hundred years, Black Like Us showcases a canon of work that often falls beyond narrow parameters of African American or lesbian and gay fiction.

Beginning with the turn-of-the-century writings of Angelina Weld Grimke and Alice Dunbar-Nelson, the collection charts the literary evolution of black lesbian and gay fiction into the Harlem Renaissance of Langston Hughes and Countee Cullen and later post-war protest era, in which works by Audre Lorde, Samuel R. Delany, and James Baldwin signal the emerging sexual liberation movements.

Black Like Us also highlights outstanding contemporary works by E. Lynn Harris, Shay Youngblood, James Earl Hardy, Randall Kenan, Cheryl Clarke, Michelle Cliff, Helen Elaine Lee, Thomas Glave, Jewelle Gomez, Brian Keith Jackson and more. An extended bibliography of poets, essayists, and playwrights that includes Essex Hemphill, Lorraine Hansberry, June Jordan, George C. Wolfe, Sapphire, and Pat Parker among many others is featured.

Contains three original introductions, 36 author profiles, a foreword by Evelym C. White, and the largest bibliography of black lesbian, gay and bisexual-related writing available

LGBT Must Read Books

Purple Panties: An Eroticanoir.com Anthology


Zane, the New York Times bestselling author and Queen of
Erotic Fiction, brings a new collection of lesbian erotica
that will blow the sheets off beds everywhere.


What happens when "The Finest Man" you have ever laid eyes on is a woman? What happens when a woman comes home to her man after a hard day's work with "Lipstick on Her Collar?" What happens when a married woman runs across the love of her life -- another woman -- who insists that "It's All or Nothing?" Is there such a thing as playing too "Hard to Get?" What happens when "Mom's Night Out" turns into group sex? What happens when you discover your true sexuality "At Last?" All of these questions and more are answered within the pages of Purple Panties.

Written by women from all over the world, here is a new level of lesbian erotica, compiled by Zane, that promises the most exciting and steamy reading experience possible. These stories move beyond race, age, and all walks of life, including long-hidden passions, secret rendezvous with strangers, and May-December romances.

With Zane's ever-growing popularity, and the need for increasingly quality erotica, Purple Panties will satisfy a long-standing demand for African-American lesbian literature.

In the tradition of such successful erotica anthologies as Chocolate Flava and Caramel Flava, Purple Panties uncovers a new world of evocative risk-taking that has never been explored before from a lesbian perspective. The adventures in these stories are beyond everyone's wildest imaginations.

LGBT Must Read Books

My Man My Boyz By: Dwayne Vernon

My Man My Boyz is an intriguing story about men coming together as a family. Their shared lifestyle and compassion for each other is the back drop for this fast-paced drama filled with emotional moments and suspenseful plot twists. Tyrell and Chuck - Will this promising new relationship be destroyed by Chuck's secret past? Does his past have the power to wreak havoc on the interwoven lives of all these men? Tariff Struggling to uphold his lover's dying wish for him to find love again; he must come to terms with Demetrius, who waits in the wings. Can Demetrius be patient while Tariff accepts the love he has to offer him? Mike and Reese - The veteran lovers attempt to maintain their partnership while Mike deals with the rejection from his father, and Reese faces difficulties with getting his NFL career jump started. This mosaic of black men weaves a poignant tale through the chance encounters, human action, and past history of these eclectic characters. They all have their own issues to deal with, but the bond they share is unbreakable - or is it?

In Relationships...

There really isn’t a guide to follow when it comes to being in a relationship. You can read every book about relationships, but it still won’t pertain to the one you’re in. And having your wall up, isn't the best thing to do as well as letting your guard down. We can all agree that when being in a relationship it's either a good or a bad one. Everyone obviously would prefer a good one, but that's not always the case. Seeking books for help I'm going to tell you that you're wasting your time.

Never compare your relationship or situation to someone else’s, the definitions are never the same. It's better to ask for advice, rather than going by a book that really has nothing to do with what you're going through anyway. A lot of times when a person is going through some things and need someone to lend an ear, just do that. I guarantee that the person will figure it all out themselves.

Let's Talk About It:

A about a year ago my co- worker asked me "How do I Come Out"?

For many lesbians it's incredibly difficult to come to terms with the fact that you are a lesbian. It can take months, if not years, to feel comfortable with the realisation that you are a woman that loves women. This is mainly due to the fact that society has ruled that heterosexual relationships are normal, and same-sex couples shouldn't exist. Gradually, the world is coming to terms with the fact that lesbians and gay men will be on this planet for the entirety of human existence, but, as we still struggle for equality and identity, being a lesbian can be hard to accept. You are trained throughout your childhood that you should have a boyfriend, get married, and make babies - but what if that just isn't for you?

Whenever this self-recognition takes place, this is known as the first phase of "Coming Out". The second phase is often termed as "Disclosure to Others", which means telling other people that you are a lesbian. Whilst it may be easy to tell your friends, one of the most daunting prospects that you will face is telling your parents.

I can only give the best advice I possibly can give at this point. For her to sound so desperate and wondered how did I do it. Every body's different and I had to explain that as well. It's much easier for most to just come out and not give two shits about what someone has to say, or feel. Like myself, I didn't care at all. The only people I had a rough time with was my Mother. Once she told me how she felt I was free as a bird. But that's the case for others.

So with that I told my co- worker at the end of the day, it's up to you which method you choose. It has to be something that you feel comfortable with, and you also have to do it at a time that is right for you. You also have to bear in mind your parents. If there are religious conflicts, or attitudes to life, that will make them find lesbianism difficult to accept you will have to bear this in mind and proceed with caution. You can never really gauge what your parent's reaction will be, no matter how open they are, but with time any parent that loves their child will come to terms with their sexuality.

You may never feel like telling your parents, but the true process of disclosure will never be finished until you do. You will always be hiding your real identity from the people that brought you into this world ... so go on, be brave! It could be the best thing you ever do in your life!

They Need Our Help...It's Starts With Us

About Ali Forney

Ali Forney was a homeless queer teen who was forced to live on the streets of New York during the 1990s. Ali was dedicated to the safety of other homeless queer youth; he was a committed HIV prevention worker, and aggressively advocated that the NYPD investigate a series of murders of the homeless queer youth he had befriended. Ali was an inspiration to those who knew him.

In December of 1997, Ali was murdered on the streets. His tragic death called attention to the atrocious conditions for homeless LGBT youth in New York. Ali's murderer has never been identified.

Items We Always Need:

•Non-perishable foods
•Toiletries
•Cleaning supplies
•Office supplies
•Twin sheet sets
•Towels and wash cloths
•Socks, underwear and T-shirts
•School supplies and bookbags


Volunteer ContactBill Torres
Director of Community Resources
Phone: (212) 991-0853
E-mail: btorres@aliforneycenter.org

I myself will do as much as possibly can to help our youth in need. It's my duty to do all I can to make sure that LGBTQ Youths will be safe and protected. Please, I hope everyone of you do the same and volunteer for a great cause. It starts with us. You will feel a million times better when you know you've help someone who is in desperate need. I beg you to show love and support our youth who are homeless or in trouble.

10 Great Tips for spicing it up

In my opinion the key to spicing your sex life up is going to be different for every couple. Only you and he know your likes and dislikes. Whatever interests both of you in bed is going to be one of the most important aspects of your sexual relationship. Of course, if that is the only thing you are doing it won't be long before you both get tired of the 'relationship'

Some ideas for adventurous relationship experiences include:

-Spending time with your lover in a body of water (pool, lake, ocean, hot tub)
-Switching Roles (Top to Bottom) - though some may not like this idea so use with caution
-Blindfolding your partner and letting him feel your touch as opposed to seeing it as well
-Bondage
-Role-playing (Teacher/Student, Cop/Robber, or another Fantasy)

Positions

-On your back with him facing you
-Doggy Style
-69
-Spooning (on your side with him behind you)
-Standing up (from Front or back)
-Against the wall (Whoever is giving should stand facing the wall pining you back against it. The giver should lift the taker up with his body, so he is held between him and the wall with his legs around the Giver)

A great time to surprise her/him:

-On the weekend when you both wake up
-After a long hard day of work
-In the middle of the night during a weekend or vacation day
-During his/her lunch hour while he is at work


Ideas for dates:

-Dinner & a Movie
-Hot Air Ballooning
-Skydiving
-Picnic in the Park/Forest/ Meadow etc.
-Theatre/Ballet/Opera
-Musical Concerts

Romantic Getaways:

-Hawaii
-The Caribbean
-New York City
-Paris
-Italy
-Rio de Janeiro
-Chicago
-Miami

I'm just trying to help you spice up your relationship before it goes dry.

Keith Sweat: right and wrong way

I chose to add this video being that music plays a major part in today's society. My thing is, I'm trying so hard to become one of the best "LGBT relationship advisor" that I'm taking all measures to help others reach their goal in life as far as relationships go. Until I start adding my own personal relationship videos, I will randomly choose a music video that has some dealings with what I'm doing.

I love this video, not only because I grew up listening to the begging king, but because he writes and sings all the right songs. I recommend couples listen to Keith Sweat's albums while spending that quality time and dance. Hold each other and love one another. Music helps a lot.

EYE CANDY>>Dana Lee

Name: Dana Lee

Age: 28

Height : 5’4″

Weight: 125

Ethnicity: Korean/Italian/Indian

Myspace: www.myspace.com/_dana_dane

Twitter: www.twitter.com/msdanalee

Website: coming soon

Occupation: Registered Nurse and Model

Relationship Status: Single

Measurements: 34D-24-39


DAMNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!Shorty is completely flawless in all aspects of the word. Let me know what yall think...

Let's Talk About It:

So you've been through a devastating break up, and now your heart is broke and you think it's the end of the world. But guess what? It's not! Hearts mend, life goes on, and feeling better is just right around the corner.

Breaking up can be painful for everyone, but it can be even more painful for those in a gay or lesbian relationship. You may feel more isolated and lonely than those suffering through a heterosexual relationship break up, and, sadly, same-sex relationship breakups can cause long-term depression and extreme feelings of self-loathing and societal exclusion.

Recognize the 5 steps stages of heartbreak:
· Denial
· Resentment
· Bargaining
· Depression
· Acceptance

Trust me I'm living proof of each one of these steps. I promise you'll do just fine. Time will make you stronger, and that person will no longer be on your mind. Sitting in your room cause you don't want to go out will not help you at all. We all been there before, and it's not at all one bit of fun to deal with.

Unhappy?

There is no reason why you should spend your life miserable because of personality issues in either yourself or in a loved one. It's time to let those issues go and give them back to their source, and then get on with your life... which is exactly what every human being should get to do!

When it comes to relationships, ending it is always much harder than beginning it. Unfortunately, romance has its funny way of going stale and with stale relationships, ending it is better than getting stuck in a relationship that you simply don't want. So if you are unhappy with a relationship that just can't seem to improve, your best bet is to end it before things get even worse.

So, are You or Your Partner Stressing Out because of a Personality Flaw? Are Either of You Bad or Negative or Disgusting or Wrong or Horrible or Terrible or Unhappy? Here's a List to Help You in Identifying Personality Flaws in Your Ex (and Yourself).

The JUDGE. Continuously complains, advises, and finds fault.

The VICTIM. Sits on his pity-pot, wracked with sympathy for his "woe is me" life.

The KILLJOY. Constant spoilsport. Pessimistic and negative.

The PULVERIZER. Insensitive, arrogant, appears selfish, self-centered and extremely apathetic.

The NEWSMONGER. Rumors and gossip is this persons forte.

The DIRECTOR. A total control freak.

The ILLUSIONIST. Truly a falseheart. Back stabber. Tends to be two-faced, dishonest, and cunning.

The SNUB. Gives you the cold-shoulder. Aloof, disengaged, and distant. Avoids contact.

The CONTENDER.Consistently competing. Takes sides and keeps track tit for tat.

The OLYMPIC GAMER. Always striving for more, never satisfied. Pushes themself to the limit. Tends to over-work.

The JERK. Arrogantly makes crude suggestions. Flirtatious. Untrustworthy. Invading and harassing. Offensive. Unfaithful.

The SILLY PUTTY. Weak-kneed, mealymouthed. Overly eager to please. Can change entire persona to meet another's expectations.

The GREEN-EYED OGRE. Rages with envy. Jealous, over-possessive.Covetous of.

The BANG. Highly explosive personality. Seethes with rage. Easily riled.

The DOWNER. Constantly down-and-out. Needy. Suffocating. Soaks up all you have to give, and rarely, if ever, gives anything back.

GLBT Domestic Violence: Similarities and Differences

In many ways, domestic violence in lesbian, bisexual and gay relationships is the same as in opposite-gendered (heterosexually) relationships:

•No one deserves to be abused.

•Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, and involve verbal behavior used to coerce, threaten or humiliate.

•Abuse often occurs in a cyclical fashion.

•Abuse often occurs and is most dangerous when one partner in a relationship seeks to leave.

•The purpose of the abuse is to maintain control and power over one's partner.

•The abused partner feels alone, isolated and afraid, and is usually convinced that the abuse is somehow her or his fault, or could have been avoided if she or he knew what to do.

•A pattern of violence or behaviors exists where one seeks to control the thoughts, beliefs, or conduct of their intimate partner, or to punish their partner for resisting their control. This may been seen as physical or sexual violence, or emotional and verbal abuse.

On the other side of the coin, several important aspects of GLBT relationships mean domestic violence is often experienced differently.

Emotional abuse for someone who is gay, lesbian, or bisexual may be to out them at work or to family or friends.

Let's Talk About It:

If u listen to relationship advice from your single friend, don't be surprised when you're as single as they are: NOT TRUE. You would want to listen to your single friends, because they would know better being that they've been through what you're going through now. If their break up was their own fault, well guess what? they can tell you what to and what not to do, so you won't wind up just like them. And if it wasn't their fault they can tell you how to deal with certain situations. Single or not it's okay to take advise from someone who has experienced the same thing as you.

Maybe taking advise from a friend who's in a relationship is fine, but would you really follow their advise? Alot of times they're not taking their own advise. The earful that they giving you is really trying to convince themselves. Why give advise when you yourself don't follow what you dish out? At least a single friend probably took their own advise and kicked rocks.

Another good advisor would be the person who fucked up. They can tell you what they did to mess up their relationship so you don't make the same mistake they made. You learn from examples of your friends.

Tell me what you think....

Is Once A Cheater Always A Cheater?

Better to make a clean break and move on, teaching her the lesson that her actions have consequences. You'll feel stronger for it, and in the long run you may have really helped them mature. See, that's the tragedy of cheating: You can dump your girlfriend, showing her the error of her ways and possibly teaching her not to cheat for the next girl she dates, or you can stay with her and thereby teach her that it's OK to cheat on you.

I personally was a victim of my girl cheating on me. There were no signs of her stepping out on me, until that one dreadful night. You know they always say follow your gut and not your head. So I went and followed my gut instincts and did the ultimate no no and invaded her privacy, and went through her phone, and there it was, a book long text message that she sent to this infamous woman. I won't go into details just know that it wasn't good.

After flipping out all over that apt. for hours on in, I took her word and believed her lying ass with that famous line "It's not like that, I love you and only you baby" all I can say is BULLSHIT. So yall already know that I had mentally stored that number in my head for just in case reasons. Hoping to never come across those hurtful 7 digits ever again.

Basically I played the sucker, yeah whatever I admit it dammit. So time past and what the fuck I see with my side eyes when her phone rung....YES!!! those 7 digits. If I never flung a phone so quick and hard in my life, that would of been a record. Come to find out that so-called girl was calling and texting the whole entire time. Even after I found out about her infidelities.

That's not the worst part of it. Brace yourselves and hold on to your seats. What finally did was....woo let me take a minute first..................OK what finally did was, one day while working my ass off trying to make a life for us, I checked her texting and call log online and found out that she was still engaging in conversations and texting this other woman. I ran outside in a hurry and called my girl to flip and I didn't get an answer. Within two minutes the other woman calls my phone and says "who's this?" I said "this is Taz who the fuck is this?" the chick had the audacity to tell me "well ur girl is in my bed".

What hurts even more the finding out the reason. Due to the fact I have a demanding job that requires heavy lifting and many other physical labor, that when I reach home I'm pretty much beat and just want to shower and relax. So me relaxing bussing my ass at work kind of slowed me down from having fun and always hanging out like when we first met. According to her I've became boring. What kind of fucking excuse is that???? Excuse me for putting priorities ahead of going out partying every damn weekend. What was I thinking? Rent and bills can wait, let's get fucked up and worry about grown up things later. NO!!!! not me. Priorities always come first then everything else will come after.

After breaking my heart into a trillion pieces, I haven't spoken to my now ex for about 2 months. All the sorry's and tears no longer mattered to me. Mind you that it's been like 2 in a half years I've been dealing with this bullshit with her and this woman. When I gave her 6 years of me. So 6 years went down the drain straight to hell.

Now, we talk occasionally but it can not be anything more than just phone conversations and sometimes chilling when we have the time or the Patience to deal with each other.

What do you think? Does a cheater ever change their ways? Are there advantages to forgiving someone, or will it always and forever taint the relationship? Have you ever forgiven a cheater?

Still Can't Get Enough Of Aaliyah

Singer, actress. Aaliyah Dana Haughton, born on January 16, 1979, in Brooklyn, New York. Raised in Detroit, Michigan, the young singer competed unsuccessfully on the television program Star Search at age 11.

In 1994, at the age of 15, Aaliyah catapulted onto the R&B charts herself with her debut album, Age Ain't Nothing But a Number. Produced by the successful singer R. (Robert) Kelly, the album quickly sold a million copies and eventually earned platinum status based largely on the success of two hit singles, "Back and Forth" and "At Your Best (You Are Love)." Later that year, tabloid reports surfaced claiming that the sultry teen singer had married the 27-year-old Kelly, but Aaliyah denied the union and the marriage was reportedly annulled.

Aaliyah released her sophomore album, One in a Million (1996). Helmed by the well-known pop producer Timbaland (Tim Mosely) and featuring rap performer Missy "Misdemeanor" Elliott, One in a Million portrayed the 17-year-old singer as a sultry hip-hop chanteuse with a self-confidence well beyond her years. The album garnered favorable reviews and sold two million copies.

Her next soundtrack effort, "Are You That Somebody?" for 1998's Dr. Dolittle, starring Eddie Murphy, went to No. 1 on the R&B charts, was a pop crossover hit, and earned Aaliyah her first Grammy Award nomination.

Her third album, Aaliyah, was released in July 2001 and reached No. 2 on the Billboard album chart. Also in 2001, she played the title role in Queen of the Damned, based on the bestselling novel by Anne Rice and set for release in 2002. She scored a major casting coup when she signed to appear in two upcoming sequels to the blockbuster sci-fi thriller The Matrix, starring Keanu Reeves and Laurence Fishburne.

Tragically, Aaliyah was killed on August 25, 2001, when a small Cessna passenger plane carrying the singer and her video crew crashed and burst into flames shortly after takeoff from Abaco Island in the Bahamas, where they had just completed work on a video. The plane was headed for Miami, Florida. Aaliyah and seven other people, including the pilot, were believed to have died instantly, while a ninth passenger died later at a Bahamian hospital. Aaliyah was 22 years old at the time of her death.

Lady Gaga Plays 'Today' Show

Lady Gaga gives the Today Show in New York's Rockefeller Plaza Friday morning performing hits, new songs, for an estimated 20,000 fans. giving the out of control, screaming fans the classic George Gershwin song "Someone to Watch Over Me" and "Bad Romance." Later, Gaga performed her new song, a piano-driven ballad called "You and I," plus two more from "The Fame Monster," "Alejandro" and "Teeth." The pop star has been in New York all week to play a three-night stand at Madison Square Garden as part of her Monster Ball tour.

Gaga also announced an Aug. 3 release date for "Lady Gaga -- The Remix." The set features ten remixes of songs from "The Fame" and "The Fame Monster" -- including "Just Dance," "Poker Face," "Love Game," "Paparazzi," and "Telephone" -- by artists like Pet Shop Boys, Passion Pit, Marilyn Manson, and her frequent collaborator, RedOne.

My gosh Madam GaGa is doing the most and I love it. Her creativity in style of dress is uniquely amazing. Her voice, well I don't know about that. Just not a lyrical GaGa fan, I personally love the weirdness in her. That's all. My ears starts to bleed if I have to sit and listen to her chant nonsense too long.

My opinion. Point blank.....

Scientists Discover Anti-Bodies That Neutralize HIV Strains

A medical breakthrough could pave the way to a cure for HIV, scientists announced yesterday.

Government researchers have discovered two human anti-bodies that neutralize more than 90 percent of all known strains of HIV – blocking it from infecting human cells.

Scientists with the National Institutes of Health were able to learn how the anti-bodies work and where they attach to the virus.

They say the discovery could eventually be used to design improved vaccines or be developed to prevent and treat HIV infections.

The latest scoreboard has approximately 40 million people infected and 0 cured! We all know HIV and AIDS is of utmost concern to the gay and bisexual community. Explore facts about the epidemic, preventative measures, resources and support.

I don't know about you but hell, this is a big deal. Finally, after so many years and countless researching they are close if not already have the anti-bodies. If this isn't something to rejoice about, than I don't know what is.

Let's Talk About It: Lesbian Crushes

It's more common now then ever for a female to have a secret crush on another female. Whether it's in the workplace or just being friends always hanging out doing girlie things, the thought have crossed their minds one time or another. Women can get away with holding hands and kissing in public according to "society" that it's become normal behavior for such acts to happen.

Women are more comfortable with each other that sharing intimate secrets about past relationships and what have you, makes it all the better and easy for feelings to occur. Unknowingly when woman catch feelings for their friends will have them guessing their sexuality. Thoughts and confusion run all up and down their mind that they don't know what to do, or know how to react.

The way some women carry themselves can also attract other women to look at her in a different way. Inviting her out for lunch on breaks and conversing about different things to see where her head is at and how she responds to certain topics can very well turn other woman on. You wont be able to see the signs of this crush because women are good at pretending, and boy can we pretend.

A crush is just what it is a crush. Nothing more and nothing less. Lesbian Crushes happens on the daily bases all over the world. OH!!! be advised that this sort of crush happens with fem like females. Us Ag's(studs) don't play that shit at all. At least I don't to each is own I just don't agree with the whole idea of a Ag(stud) having a crush on another Ag(stud).

Don't want to leave men out, but it happens with them as well. Maybe not as much and not as common but yes there are such tendencies. Gay/Lesbian Crushes happens on both sides of the fence.

LGBT "The Center"

After networking with a few LGBTQ volunteers, I'm very proud of what they're doing for the youth that struggles everyday in the LGBTQ community. Maybe some of the struggles they're going through stems from lack of support and guidance from family, and friends, and there's community groups out there to take them in with open arms and show them that there's hope.

Times have definitely has changed since I was growing up. The youth today is very off focused and lack respect for their peers, instead of bracing one another. Society today have our youth messed up morally. We didn't have to worry MUCH about hate, envy, and jealousy like we do now. Yes, it existed but it damn sure wasn't as bad as it is today. Having a good time with our peers was what we represented for the most part. There is so much discrimination going on around the world that we don't need that within the LGBT community at all.

They've always been support groups and community centers out there to build esteem and show the importance of what you are. I just haven't been interested in enquiring about them because I wasn't lost. I knew what I was and had support that I just never tempted to walk into one of many support group centers.

So when I hear there's young volunteers out there to help and speak up for their peers blows my mind in such a way that I can't help but smile. I guess you can say that my generation has passed the torch down to the up and coming lost LGBTQ youths.

Here's one center I recommend all and any LGBTQ young who's interested in finding an outside family young and old to lend a hand.

The CenterAddress:‎
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208 W 13Th St
New York, NY 10011

Here's some background on The Center:

"The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center provides a home for the birth, nurture and celebration of our organizations, institutions and culture; cares for our individuals and groups in need; educates the public and our community; and empowers our individuals and groups to achieve their fullest potential."


Established in 1983, the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center has grown to become the largest LGBT multi-service organization on the East Coast and second largest LGBT community center in the world.

Every week, 6,000 people visit the Center, and more than 300 groups meet here. In addition, our myriad meeting rooms are booked months in advance, indicating the community is as hungry as ever for a place to call its own.

We provide groundbreaking social service, public policy, educational and cultural/recreational programs. We also serve as an incubator for grassroots groups that meet here. Indeed, we were the birthplace of organizations such as the AIDS activist group ACT UP and the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD), the principal organization combating homophobia and stereotyping of gays in the media.

We have the opportunity to leave the next LGBT generation a legacy on which to build. The Center is certain to play a part in our community's future: to give shelter to our struggle and to participate in the shaping of our destiny, while memorializing and honoring our past. We look forward to providing a heart and home deserving of New York's LGBT community, as well as confronting the political challenges presented to our communities in this and coming years.

Take Part in Historic and Important International LGBT Survey

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The 2010 Out Now Global LBGT Study is surveying LGBT people living around the world sampling into 20 countries, looking at what significant issues affect our lives today.

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Ciara Unveils ‘Basic Instinct’ Cover

Check out the cover of Ciara’s ‘Basic Instinct’ LP. The album hits stores on August 17Th and will feature tracks such as the 1st single ‘Ride’ which has thus far peaked #5 on the Hot R&B/Hip-Hop Songs chart and #50 o the Billboard Hot 100.

I must say, what a stunning album cover. Honestly, I haven't been feeling any of her albums, now her singles I can work with. CiCi has been around for a bit and hopefully this album will be a great one. Don't think I'm anticipating this one for whatever reason I just don't know why. She just hasn't moved me like Mariah Carey or Keyshia Cole.

Her dancing now, I have to admit keeps me wanting her more and more. The way she moves her body really have me at attention. She's fucking sexy and yes I support sexy. I guess that's why I rather download her album for free first before I go ahead and spend my money on a alright album. I mean being sexy can only get you but so far right?

I'm sharing my honest opinion and I hope you will share yours. Please let me know what you think. Hot or Not?

Mariah is Confirmed to Perform in Brazil

Yesss!!! to all my LGBTQ fam who I know are such big fans of Mariah Carey, it is confirmed that the butterfly queen will be performing in Brazil at the Festa Do Peão de Boiadeiros (Cowboy Festival) in Barretos, São Paulo on Saturday, August 21. It will be staged at Barretos' open-air central stadium, which has a capacity to accommodate 50,000 people.

Ticket Prices:
VIP Floor* = R$300,00 (US$170.00) / R$150,00 (US$85.00) students only
Floor = R$200,00 (US$113.00) / R$100,00 (US$57.00) students only
Seats = R$200,00 (US$113.00) / R$100,00 (US$57.00) students only
VIP Boxes** = R$700,00 (US$400.00) / R$350,00 (US$200.00) students only

This is such a big deal for a lot of Mariah Carey fans across the world. I'm even hoping to be one of thousands there to see one of my idols perform. Plus it gives me a reason to get away and take a short vacation. If it's possible I will as happy as a gay man with a bag full of dicks. LOL.

Mariah Carey is no stranger to the billboard. Her top songs are as followed:

» We Belong Together - 4,397 votes
» Vision Of Love - 4,099 votes
» Always Be My Baby - 4,084 votes
» Butterfly - 3,856 votes
» Fantasy - 3,845 votes
» My All - 3,768 votes
» Honey - 3,582 votes
» Emotions - 3,524 votes
» Fly Like A Bird - 3,351 votes
» Hero - 3,348 votes
» One Sweet Day - 3,332 votes
» Heartbreaker - 3,324 votes
» Dreamlover - 3,296 votes
» Don't Forget About Us - 3,287 votes

Her new album I must say is by far my favorite to date. I can't stop listening to all 17 tracks. With that said, I'm overly excited about this breaking news and I hope the rest of the world is as well.

Let's Talk About It:

Why do most men think they can turn a lesbian straight? Where they do that at?? What makes most men feel if a lesbian get some of the dick that they going to turn us straight? Do they realize that a good percentage of lesbians been with a man, and it didn't do anything for them so that's why they're lesbians. Please I need some feed back on this topic #TeamLGBTQ...

Me personally, never slept with a man and will be damned if I ever did. Which means not happening. So all that turning a lesbian straight is so not happening over here. I don't know why some lesbians and bisexuals who have slept with a man once upon a time chose to be what they are today. Maybe they wasn't hitting it right. lolll I'm just saying. Please I really some feed back on this topic. Let me know how you feel....men please feel free to respond and give your side.

This what Sippin Coffee is all about...we talk about whatever on here...

Yaya Plays Lesbian in a Family Comedy

Yaya DaCosta (Season 3), has been busy. Recently named Esquire’s “Woman of the Summer,” the actress/model appears in a supporting role in the lesbian family comedy, ”The Kids Are All Right, starring Annette Bening and Julianne Moore who play lesbian parents of two teenage children.

This is what she had to say: “the script itself, even before I auditioned really just drew me in. It was beautifully written by Lisa Cholodenko and Stuart Blumberg and it’s a story that I don’t think has been put on film before and it’s always nice to do something new and exciting and refreshing and impactful. I think it’s going to have a huge impact on everyone, not just the LGBT community but also people who may not expect to fall in love with these characters"

Seems a lot of entertainers playing such roles have a point to prove, just what is their point? That they're secure with themselves or is to boost their careers by showing the world that they have no problem with taking on gay roles? Is this acceptable by the LGBTQ community? Me personally don't have an issue with it, I just hope that these entertainers who play these gay roles take our LGBTQ community serious. This is not a game or a habit, we're fighting everyday for our rights and to be taken serious, and to be taken otherwise is just wrong and in that case not acceptable.

Let's Talk About It:

Men and anal sex: a lot of men yell that gay shit when certain topics come up, not realizing that anal sex is anal sex no matter who you doing it to. Because they butt fucking a chick that don't make them gay. But, if you can butt fuck a chick when caught up in the moment eyes closed you can easily butt fuck a man. What's the difference an ass is an ass. That's just giving head. Just as a chick can give you head, while your eyes rolling in the back of your head a dude could be giving you head as well. A mouth is a mouth. So please stop yelling that gay shit.

Yes, a female body is nothing like a males. The softness and the curves of a woman compared to the hard, hairy body of a man you will be able to tell the difference. Again, a butt is a butt and a mouth piece is a mouth piece. How will you be able to know the difference if you're not poking the vagina?

This is what the whole argument was about the other day at work, so I just wanted to share with you. Please give your input and let me know how you feel about this Sippin Coffee topic.

EYE CANDY>>Samantha Foxx

I just had to continue doing my eye candy of the week...and it's the gorgeous Samantha Foxx. What more can I say??? Just look at her...why wouldn't I pick her as my eye candy of the week. Leave a comment and let me know that yall think.

Let's Talk About It: The Introduction

Here's something that I came up with in order to interact with my viewers. Let's Talk about It is something like a public discussion where my viewers can talk as well as give ideas on various topics about whatever they choose to discuss. I'm trying this out for awhile to see how this go and I'll be taking it from there. Hopefully, a lot of people take full advantage and just sit relax sip some good hot/cold coffee and speak their mind without any discrimination or disrespect. Opinions matter and count on this site. I spread news, love, and support for my LGBTQ family across the world.Let's Talk About It is for everybody not just LGBT. Who knows straight people might have questions about LGBTQ. I'm very open to anyone with topics and ideas to discuss. Please take advantage and join me while we sip coffee and chat a bit. Now if anybody have any ideas or topics they would like to discuss or any questions they want to ask please feel free to email me at taz96st@gmail.com or leave a comment and I promise to get back to each and everyone asap.

thank you for the support...It starts with you and me.

Chris Brown Collaborates With Keyshia Cole On New Project

Chris Brown broke the news to his fans early this morning that he is currently working on a new project with singer Keyshia Cole. Are you fucking serious??? When he broke the news my face lit up light a lightning bug. I'm such a great big fan of both. All I'm saying is when Chris Brown starts going in with his anticipated album will Trey Songz take the backseat? It's not clear though, if the collaboration will appear on Chris Brown upcoming project or Keyshia Coles album, which I believe to be dropping later this year. *shrugs shoulders*...either way this is a very big deal for music lovers and of course Breezy's fans.

I'm just so proud of how Chris has grown from the whole RiRi situation, and he has proved it in so many ways. The MJ tribute was the redemption, and I still love and support him 100%.

It's reported that Brown has been busy getting it in with some studio time with Young Money rapper Drake.