HOW IT BEGINS
As in nature, people may be attracted to that which is opposite of us <------ (which in some cases usually don't work out) as a way to "complete you" and make you feel whole. Your weak, complacent side may often (and naturally) seek out a mate that is strong, unyielding and hardened ... but much to your dismay you soon find that many unyielding, hardened person come with much baggage...and this baggage is usually discharged at the weaker sex. You become safe targets, punching bags, and gullible, trusting guinea pigs who absorb the man's/woman's pain and insecurities and who never fight back. You unwittingly let them devour you out of your faith, trust and love of them.
HOW IT ESCALATES
After being hurt, let down, and disappointed time-after-time (in your relationships), you learn to stop being feminine, weak and trusting.
After being taken advantage of time-after-time, you stop being open, soft and vulnerable. Your hearts bolt shut and become overly cautious and distrustful.
A hardened, unbreakable shell gradually replaces your soft femininity; and soon possess a callous and sometimes contemptuous attitude, an unattached and distanced approach, and a suspicious, untrusting nature.
THE REAL TRUTH IS AT HEART
Unfortunately, deep down inside under this new, rough, hardened exterior lies the true, soft, feminine, beating heart of a damsel still dreaming of her knight. A heart that is all too flexible a heart that is permeable, thin, and easily broken, still looking for that man/woman that will sweep you off your feet, protect you from all the dragons, and lock you safely away in his/hers arms forever after.
If the person in your life, or the person in your past, have made you close your heart, and hide your true feminine emotions, remember that you are only denying yourself the right to be a woman in all of a woman's true glory. You may hide from pain, and may close your hearts in fear of them being bulldozed, but in the end you only hurt yourself.
So go ahead and be that gracious beautiful soft gentle woman that you are. Today you should rejoice in your femininity. A woman's loving heart and tender, impassioned soul is the most beautiful and natural thing on this planet. Without it, this world would be a very ugly place to live in.
And somewhere out there waits someone that would love to slay your dragons! <----- TRUST ME...
Entertain me with your thoughts...