Dear Taz, (The Street Therapist)
I had surgery to correct my strabismus when I was young, but my right eye has started to deviate at times in recent years. After a rough 3 years at uni of not being able to look people in the eye and feeling down, I'm now starting to grow more accepting about the way I look. Repeat surgery is something I'm considering longer term, but chances are the eye would deviate again eventually.
Dating has been out the question until now because of embarrassment, but now that I've turned 21, I feel ready to look for a relationship. To have the confidence to look someone in the eyes and tell them I love them would be just amazing, but I would hate to make them feel awkward. Should this be something that should be mentioned in passing on a first date? How would I go about this without making them feel awkward? I'd appreciate your honest opinions, I won't be offended!
Dear Lazy Eye,
Personally, I couldn't care less if someone has a lazy eye. It doesn't make anything awkward. I'll admit, the first time I met someone with a lazy eye I felt a little awkward, but that was all on me and because I was standing at an angle from the person, so I didn't actually know yet that she had a lazy eye (hadn't seen the other eye) and it just seemed like she wouldn't look at me. If you're on a date with someone, you've clearly already gotten past that.